Live Group Coaching Session with Jillian Turecki - July 25, 2025

NOTES

Summary & Takeaways:

Recognizing Emotional Red Flags Early
Jillian emphasized the importance of tuning into discomfort early in dating. If a partner shows erratic behavior, poor communication, or emotional inconsistency—those are signs not to ignore. She encouraged listeners to bring up observations gently but directly to gauge the other person’s emotional availability and willingness to grow.

Noticing Patterns in Relational Disconnection
One speaker shared about a partner who displayed warm affection followed by complete withdrawal. Jillian affirmed this as a destabilizing pattern often tied to avoidant behavior or personal issues (like unprocessed trauma or substance use). Writing about the relationship in real time—as this speaker did—is a powerful way to remain grounded in one’s reality.

Masculine vs. Feminine Energy in Relationships
Jillian explained that some emotional mismatches stem not from malice, but from deep energetic imbalances—like a person overly immersed in masculine energy being emotionally unavailable. If someone is “divorced from their feminine side,” they may struggle with empathy and emotional responsiveness. Understanding your own energy and learning how to communicate with someone different is essential—but the other person also needs to be willing.

Navigating the Aftermath of Emotional Betrayal
Several participants shared stories of intense heartbreak, betrayal, and abandonment. Jillian repeatedly brought the focus back to self-trust and clarity. She acknowledged how deeply painful these experiences are—but also pointed out the freedom and redirection they offer. Healing is nonlinear, and it’s okay not to be “over it” in four months.

Reframing Forgiveness
One participant asked how to forgive someone who left her in a cruel, emotional way. Jillian responded powerfully: “You don’t have to forgive. You have to stop taking it personally.” Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning. It means releasing the story that their behavior defines your worth. Their emotional limitations are about them, not you.

The Meaning You Assign Is Everything
Jillian guided listeners through examining the narrative they tell themselves: “He left me without explanation, so I must not be worth loving.” She urged reframing: “He left because he was emotionally stunted. That says nothing about my value.” When the meaning shifts, the emotional charge begins to loosen.

Quotes

“Be the communicator you wish to be in a relationship.”

“There’s no way to circumvent the pain of a breakup. They suck, they hurt.”

“Just because someone says you're emotionally violent doesn’t mean it’s true—sometimes, it’s just cultural misalignment.”

“You don’t have to forgive them. You have to stop taking it personally.”

“We have to all see our part in a relationship. Otherwise, we don’t grow.”

“He was doing the only thing he knew how to do—because he was emotionally stunted. That’s not on you.”

“If someone bounces from one relationship to the next, they’re not processing. They’re just looking for someone to fill the void.”

“We are most drawn to people who can manage both their masculine and feminine energies.”

“No one gets away with anything in this life.”

Reflective Prompts

• What are my earliest instincts or body sensations trying to tell me in a relationship?

• Where in my past relationships did I ignore small red flags? What were the consequences?

• Do I feel more aligned with masculine or feminine energy? How does that show up in my relationships?

• When I feel someone withdrawing, how do I respond emotionally? What does that reveal about my attachment style?

• What story am I telling myself about what someone else’s behavior means about me? Can I release that story?

• In what ways have I internalized someone else’s emotional limitations as proof of my inadequacy?

• How can I be more intentional and mindful in my future connections?