THEMES
anxiety in relationships, anxious attachment, long term relationships, trusting your instrincts, anixety vs. intuition, anger and grief, rebuidling after breakups
MAY 7, 2025
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Key Takeaways
Anxiety often masks deeper issues; identifying the type of anxiety helps untangle it
Trusting your instincts and forgiving yourself are crucial for healing after relationships end
Anger is a natural part of grief; finding healthy ways to express it aids the healing process
Focusing on personal growth and envisioning a positive future helps move past relationship challenges
Anxiety in Relationships
Anxiety can stem from childhood wounds around not feeling good enough
Identifying the type of anxiety (e.g. fear of unfamiliarity vs. genuine incompatibility) helps address it
Practicing being present in the moment counteracts anxiety about the future
Building trust in oneself is key to feeling more secure in relationships
Ending Long-Term Relationships
Trusting instincts that a relationship isn't right, even if it's difficult to let go
Forgiving oneself for angry outbursts during breakups
Recognizing patterns of staying too long in unfulfilling relationships
Focusing on personal growth and independence after a relationship ends
Processing Anger and Grief
Anger is a natural part of grieving the end of a relationship
Healthy ways to express anger: journaling, cursing, physical activity, talking with friends
Understanding anger's purpose in signaling hurt and unmet needs
Accepting the grieving process takes time; be patient with yourself
Rebuilding After a Breakup
Focus on activities that bring joy and energy (e.g. fitness, time with friends)
Envision and journal about a positive future for yourself
Make small changes to your environment to facilitate a fresh start
Draw on past experiences of overcoming challenges to build confidence
Personal Inquiry
Practice identifying types of anxiety when they arise
Find healthy outlets for processing anger and grief
Focus on envisioning and working towards positive futures
Leverage support from the group and other resources as needed
Resources
The "3 Ps" of learned helplessness, a framework developed by psychologist Martin Seligman, describe the negative cognitive distortions that contribute to a sense of helplessness. These are: Permanence, Pervasiveness, and Personalization