Loving Again

Lesson Summary:

You don't have to be ready right now—but don't close yourself off.

• It's completely okay if loving again is the furthest thing from your mind right now. You have to be ready. Starting a new relationship before you are will only make you miss your old one more.

• The worst thing you can do is build walls and armor so thick that love can't get back in. The goal of this work has always been to leave you as free as possible to open your heart again when the time is right.

Do the work so you don't bring old wounds into new love.

• If we don’t do the work, we take our past relationship trauma directly into our next relationship. None of us are ever fully healed, but you want to be as free as possible. That's what these seven steps have been building toward.

• You are not the person you were when you entered your last relationship. Your level of consciousness, your self-awareness, your understanding of your needs, patterns, and values has all grown. That growth is what protects your next relationship.

Don't give up on love — change what you bring to it.

• Just because it didn't work out with this person doesn't mean you should blame love itself. What it means is that you now get to go into love differently — smarter, wiser, with clearer boundaries and non-negotiables, and with a much deeper knowledge of yourself.

• Keep your heart open. Develop your non-negotiables. Go for someone different. Be someone different. That is the path forward.